Depression Getaway

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Does Positive Thinking Help Depression?


Positive thinking and Depression, oh that it would work!

But maybe it can?

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Hope for Depression: Lessons from the Womb



Let me say it again:


It has been a bit of fun gleaning some new lessons for depression from various personality traits of my six grandchildren . You probably assume, since I seem so familiar with their unique characteristics, that I spend a lot of time with them. But that is not the case.

The word 'grandmother' probably conjures up all sorts of cozy scenes of homemade cookies, sleepovers and babysitting. But that is not the case with this Grandma.

Yes, I see them; yes, I love them; yes, I enjoy them, but in small doses and mostly short visits and usually with their parents along to shoulder the responsibility. Because of the limitations of mental illness I am not the sleepover Grandma or the babysitting Grandma.

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Lessons for Depression from the High Chair Authorities on Communication


Here they are! The latest addition to our growing family. #5 and #6 are twin grandbabies! And boy can they communicate.

They are eleven months old. I will call them 'Pounder' and 'Shrieker'.

An example of their skills is shown here. They are in position. Mommy is giving them cheerios which they love. And when they are done and want more, one of them simply pounds on his tray until more appear, the other one shrieks at the top of her lungs. And guess what? It works!

As we endure depression we need to learn to communicate too.

And yet one of the symptoms of depression can be to give up and shut up.

But that is not good at all.

We need to continue to communicate our symptoms and concerns to health professionals. We need to share our feelings and our needs with those close to us. I know how hard that can be.

But my little grandchildren can teach us all.


Pounding and shrieking.


Be yourself, use what works for you. This might be talking or writing, but make sure you communicate your needs.


If the cheerios taste awful they just spit them out.


Take what is offered and try it out. If it doesn't work, quit.


When they are done, they just stop eating or throw the cheerios on the floor.


Let the person who is helping you know when there has been a measure of success. Thank them, or report back and tell them that something they did or said made a difference.


You are as vulnerable and sometimes as helpless as these dear little ones. You are also as precious as they are. Shriek and pound and see what happens!

I'm so glad you dropped by Depression Getaway today where together we can

live, share,

                  laugh, care,

                                         learn, discover,

                                                                    live and recover.

There is HOPE for depression!

Don't give up, I'm praying for you!

Wendy Love





Embrace Good Emoticons for a Little Depression Getaway


Depression is an emotional illness but sometimes we're too numb or weak to even engage in emotion.

Grandchild #4 is four years old. She is still able to find a lot of joy in every little thing. She emotes easily, especially happy emotions. I will call her 'Emoticon'.

In this picture she is only two years old. She didn't even understand the victory that was being won on the TV but everyone else in the room was happy and so she was happy too!

Depression is such a selfish illness. Our thoughts turn inward. We have little to laugh at when we are really sick.

How many reasons could you find to smile today, right now? 

How about smiling for no reason at all? Right Now!

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Snuggle up for Depression Recovery


 Depression is difficult.

Depression recovery is challenging.

But we could soften the pain and increase changes of recovery with a little snuggling.

Let me introduce you to grandchild #3. He is eight years old. I will call him 'Snuggles'. I think he might be enjoying the snuggling in this picture more than the rabbit who looks a little put out.

'Snuggles' loves to snuggle. He gives the best hugs, even adds a bit of back patting in the mix. Unlike some little ones who give Grandma the mandatory hug hello and goodbye, this guy puts his heart into it. He simply enjoys it and acknowledges his need for that physical contact.

His hugs are one of my favourite depression getaways.

When we are depressed we usually don't want to even be with people, let alone hug them or be hugged. And we don't feel very huggable when we're in a bad mood.

But sometimes when we feel the most unlovable is when we need the most loving.

Take some lessons from my champion snuggler.

EXAMPLE: he only hugs people who he knows love him.

LESSON: seek out someone who cares about you and ask for a hug. Admit to them that you don't feel very huggable but you know it will make you feel better.

EXAMPLE: when asked for a hug he doesn't hesitate, he just goes for it

LESSON: when you are depressed your loved ones may think you just want to be left alone, so ask them if you need a hug, I am sure they will surprise you and move in for that hug

EXAMPLE: he leans in and doesn't rush to move away

LESSON: take your time and let the hug be the therapy you need

Physical contact is important whether you are dealing with depression or not. I remember when I was newly separated from my first husband. A friend needed a babysitter for her new baby. Boy did that cuddling ever minister to my broken heart.

So what about you and your broken brain? Have you had your hug today? That hug just may contribute to your depression recovery, for a moment, an hour, a day or longer.

I'm so glad you dropped by Depression Getaway today where together we can

live, share,

                  laugh, care,

                                             learn, discover,

                                                                    live and recover.

There is HOPE for depression!

Don't give up, I'm praying for you!

Wendy Love 

Let ‘Reticence’ be your Depression Conscience



 Does depression really have a conscience?

Meet #2 grandchild who I will call 'Reticence', almost sounds like a real name doesn't it?

Such a pensive little girl in this picture. She is now nine years old.

Last week I suggested that we could all take a lesson from a granddaughter who refuses to consider herself 'limited'. Good idea and sometimes we need a little inspiration like that.

But this week I am going in a totally different direction and we are taking lessons one who is a little cautious and more reticent.

Even though this granddaughter possesses a lot of natural talent ,she is hesitant about sharing it. Getting up in front of people is hard for her even if she's doing something she's good at.

She knows her capabilities but she also knows her anxiety levels. That doesn't prevent her from enjoying the acitivity but when it comes to 'recitals' or 'competitions' she has to back out. She is not comfortable with that.

She does things her own way and I applaud that.

She isn't being stubborn or even shy. She just knows herself.

How does this apply to depression? Sure, as depression sufferers we share some of the same symptoms. Yes, we exhibit some similar behaviours. But we are unique and how we mix all of that together is up to us.

What about you? Are you a researcher, a therapy groupie, a 'need to talk to a counsellor', or a loner? Know yourself and and base your choices on those things. Remember that just because something is a good idea doesn't mean it would be a good idea for you.

Now for our three lessons on depression from 'Reticence':

EXAMPLE: Does that therapy group make you feel totally rotten?

LESSON: Take it from 'Reticence' and hold back or just don't go. That 'uncomfortable' feeling could be natural discernment that this is not a good place for you to be right now.

EXAMPLE: Do you feel uncomfortable telling people at work, especially your boss, that you have depression?

LESSON: Take if from 'Reticence' and wait until it feels right, or if it never feels right, keep it to yourself.

EXAMPLE: Do you resent the well-meaning suggestions from others and wish they would just leave you alone?

LESSON: Take it from 'Reticence' and just do things your own way. You could simply say 'thanks for the idea, I will consider that'.

Reticence follows her own conscience, not others. It's okay to do that. Even if someone gives you a good idea, that doesn't mean it will work for you. It's okay to say no.

I know it's hard to trust your thoughts when you are depressed. This is an illness of irrational thoughts. But there are still times when you can and must trust your instincts. Your thoughts can't be wrong all the time, right?

How about you? Is there something you are reticent about right now? Do you need to heed that voice?

I'm so glad you dropped by Depression Getaway today where together we can

live, share,

                  laugh, care,

                                         learn, discover,

                                                                    live and recover.

There is HOPE for depression!

Don't give up, I'm praying for you!

Wendy Love 




‘How Hard Can Depression Be?’

Winning her first speech contest 

Depression is limiting.

I know that full well.

As I begin the series 'Lessons for Depression from the Grandchildren', let me introduce you to #1 grandchild.

street post with limitless st and opportunity blvd signsShe is a ten year old girl. I will call her 'Limitless'.

She has inherited a family trait we call the 'how hard can it be?' trait. There is nothing she won't try and she gives absolutely no thought to whether or not she has the natural talent. She just jumps in expecting positive results. She is actually quite surprised if she is not that good at something. But if she is not good at it right away, she won't quit. She will practise over and over until  she succeeds. It took her three years to master a cartwheel that her friends did in their first try. She is surprised when she doesn't win a contest. She is not presumptuous, simply optimistic and brave and oh so adventurous.

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‘Cumulative Stress’ and Depression: 3 Tips


Would you say that these athletes are experiencing 'cumulative stress'? How long does stress have to occur to call it 'cumulative'?

I am referring to the difference between a stressful situation that starts and finishes in a short time, and a stressful situation that goes on and on and on…. I am pretty sure these athletes were not just running the 100 yard dash, but more likely a marathon of some kind?

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I Don’t Feel Like a ‘Victorious Sufferer’ Today….

Sad-faceToday is not a good day. I have them more than I like to admit. I just hate saying those words…again…'I am depressed'.

I usually stay home during those days if possible. About three days of rest and doing the quiet things I enjoy the most like writing, sewing, reading, and colouring or drawing are usually enough to refuel me for a bit more of 'regular living'.

The test to whether I am feeling well again is to get out there and socialize, or shop, or visit. Anything that involves people, a lot of stimulation, driving or travelling usually depletes my limited resources.

If I find those activities totally draining, then I am still not feeling well and it is best to scurry back home to my comfy cave.

But if I'm coping okay and actually enjoying those activities, I'm safe to stay out and play… at least for awhile. Usually three days of activity is my top tolerance level and then it is home for awhile. Usually, if I follow this strategy I can avoid a deep dark long lasting depressive episode.

Do I like living this way?

No I don't.

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Meet Victorious Sufferer ‘Valerie Grace Hallinan’


"If you believe books can help us survive adversity, heal, live more fully, and change in ways we never thought we could – or if you simply can't live without books – this blog is for you" says Valerie Grace Hallinan of 'Books Can Save a Life'.

Valerie's blog appealed to the reader in me but when I realized she had written some insightful posts about mental health, I had to include her in my interviews with 'Victorious Sufferers'.

1. What inspired you to start blogging about mental illness?

My mother had paranoid schizophrenia (undiagnosed until she’d been ill for more than a decade), and she had no insight into her illness. Growing up in our family, in the 1950s, 60s, and 70s in Cleveland, Ohio, was difficult. I’d been working on a memoir and decided to begin building a platform in anticipation of publishing my book. I was interested in blogging, and so 'Books Can Save A Life' became the first component of my platform.

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