Depression Getaway

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Let’s Play the Good/Bad Game



I have a new bath mat!

It's a soft ivory colour and it's made out of one of those fabulous new fabrics that would be yummy to sleep on.

I like everything about this bath mat, well, almost everything. I guess what I don't like about it is that it doesn't really absorb the moisture. The water sort of sits on the top. So if I forget to hang it up and then walk into the bathroom with dry socks on and so I get wet socks!

The other problem is my own fault. The colour is so light that dirt shows quickly. Anyways, I have to wash this more often than I have ever washed any bath mat before it.

But you know what? It washes like a dream and the dirt comes out of it with no problem. Since the water won't sink in, the dirt doesn't either, so it's all good.

Why am I talking about my bath mat?

What could this bath mat possibly have to do with depression?

Well, for starters this mat could be a great depression getaway. On a bad day I could sit down and put my bare feet on the mat and let that soft yummy fabric sooth my edgy nerves.

Even with depression there can be a good in the bad. Just like the bath mat was poor at absorbing moisture, it was also poor at absorbing dirt, making it easy to clean.

How can we apply that idea to depression? Here are some examples.

1. Depression is isolating. When we are sick, we usually spend hours alone to allow time for recovery. That seems bad. However, that time alone forces us into quiet pursuits. Some of those quiet pursuits might give us the opportunity to develop a talent like writing, painting or sewing. Couldn't that be good? The very same thing, isolation, could be both bad or good.

2. Depression forces us to seek help (if we're smart). We really don't want to go to all sorts of doctors, which may seem bad, but we must. Perhaps we may meet one who is able to actually able to help. And wouldn't that be good?

3. Depression forces us to think about our lives. Like it or not, we may benefit from doing a life analysis and delving into past circumstances that might be contributing factors. That can be painful, bad. But what if we learn something about ourselves that can helpor relieve our depression? Wouldn't that be good?

4. Depression robs us from enjoying life. That's bad. But when we experience recovery we enjoy life more than we ever did before. That's good!

5. Depression causes us to experience agonizing mental and emotional pain. That's bad. But it gives us perspective and compassion for others going through the same kinds of things. It might even make it possible for us to reach out and help others. That's good, right?

I call this 'the good/bad game' and it can be a great depression getaway. I know it doesn't really solve anything but it gives you a different way to see a situation. It may give you new perspective. New perspective is a depression getaway in itself. If you play this game often enough it could even become a habit, a good habit!

WHAT ABOUT YOU? Have you got a situation right now that you might like to test with 'the good/bad game'? What have you got to lose?


I'm so glad you dropped by Depression Getaway today. There is hope for depression. Don't give up, I'm praying for you.

Wendy Love

Personality and Diagnosis



'Cause you've got personality,
Walk, with personality
Talk, with personality
Smile, with personality
Charm, personality
Love, personality
And plus you've got
A great big heart'
You might be too young to remember this song from the 60's. In those days if someone said that a person had a great personality the assumption would be that they were referring to the part of the personality that was thought to make you popular such as outgoingness, friendliness, confidence or maybe a sense of humour.
No one who was shy and withdrawn would have been thought to have a great personality. Personality was considered an outward trait. But we have evolved from that to a different time and more insight into the various personality types.
Look at one of the hit shows of our time, 'The Big Bang Theory'. The personalities on this show would not have won 'the life of the party' award, or 'the person who comes across best in a job interview' review, or even the delectable 'boy next door' notation and yet these 'geeks' or 'nerds' as they were called years ago are the heros of the day both in the entertainment world as well as the business world.
"The Line Substitution Solution" -- Pictured: Sheldon Cooper (Jim Parsons), Leonard Hofstadter (Johnny Galecki), Howard Wolowitz (Simon Helberg) and Rajesh Koothrappali (Kunal Nayyar). Sheldon hires Stuart to spend the day with Amy when he'd rather go to a movie screening.   Also, Leonard's mother, Beverly (Christine Baranski), comes to town and Penny struggles to make a connection with her, on THE BIG BANG THEORY, Thursday, May 5 (8:00-8:31, ET/PT) on the CBS Television Network. Photo: Michael Yarish/CBS ©2016 CBS Broadcasting, Inc. All Rights Reserved

Thanks to Bill Gaits and various rich technical geniuses we are broadening our concept of personality.

The whole point to making sure we get the right diagnosis is so that we can get the right kind of treatment. As we set up a lifestyle for ourselves that will bring healing and comfort and nurture to our condition, we absolutely cannot leave personality out. Mental illness does not paint everyone with the same brush. Despite the setbacks of depression, the effects it has on our lives, it is still a very personal journey. Our unique personalities must be factored in.

The kind of person you are will affect how the illness affects you as well as how you will best cope with depression.

So I ask you 'what kind of personality are you?'

Here is a test you could take before you read any further. If you don't like that one, take this one.

No matter what your diagnosis, it will help you to handle mental illness better if you know a bit more about yourself, why you think like you do, why you do the things you do.

If I didn't have this incite, I couldn't handle my own illness.

I am an INTROVERT. Stated bluntly that means that socializing tires me. Solitude energizes me.


When I was first diagnosed with depression, I thought that maybe I didn't like people at all and that made me feel even more guilty about my condition. But when I realized that I was simply an introvert, I felt less guilty.

I battle with bipolar as well as introversion. I need to consider them both. Without this knowledge I could not handle this illness. One of my strategies when I am really sick is to make sure I get some time alone. Often I have discovered that I wasn't depressed at all, I was just needed some quiet time.

By taking these personality tests maybe you can find more information about the way you are made to help you build the best possible life, with or without depression.

The book 'The Introvert Advantage' is my go to when I need a reminder of what it means to be an introvert.

If you'd like to hear another expert speak about introversion you might like to look up Susan Cain.


WHAT ABOUT YOU? Do you have a good grasp on white kind of personality you are? Would you like to dig further? Are you convinced that this kind of information may be a tool to add to your arsenal of 'depression getaways'?


I'm so glad you dropped by Depression Getaway today. There is hope for depression. Don't give up, I'm praying for you.

Wendy Love


Julie Fast – One Woman Bipolar Boot Camp


A mental health HERO to me is someone who platforms their suffering to inspire and teach others. Julie Fast is such a person. The attention is not on herself. The purpose is not to inflate the illness or glorify it. The whole point is helping others who suffer in the same way. 

Once I discovered I had bipolar depression I began my journey to find out as much as I could about it. I didn't have to go much farther than Julie Fast. She is like a one woman bipolar boot camp.

She has broken down this disease into strategic steps for coping. You can find that in her 'health card' system. Or maybe you would get something out of one of her many books. Or possibly you could just start with her newsletters and see if you like the way she communicates. She has a blog too!

This woman has built a career, not despite her bipolar, but around that very condition. She is making lemons out of lemonade. You see for most people with bipolar, and lots of others with mental illness, it's hard to hold down a full time job. Let's face it, we're not always reliable. But Julie took her writing ability and built a business.

She proves that it's possible to live a full productive life with this complicated mental disorder. The point to my short series on Bipolar Disorder was just to mention it in case some of you out there have not considered it yet as a piece of the puzzle of your own journey.

I created my own 'Bipolar Boot Camp' awhile ago if you would like to do a little more reading about this complicated mood disorder.

There are so many more ways to deal with depression, with mental illness besides the usual medication, therapy and lifestyle changes.

WHAT ABOUT YOU? Is there any possibility that you should take a look at this bipolar disorder?

Next time I am go ing to talk to you about another piece of my own puzzle, maybe this piece will complete your puzzle too!

Just for fun, here's another hero for you.


I'm so glad you droppped by Depression Getaway today. There is hope for depression. Don't give up, I'm praying for you!

Wendy Love

‘Bipolar Disorder’ or ‘Quick Change Artist’?

jl4Bipolar Disorder has a lot in common with a 'quick change artist'.

Just for fun, here is a YouTube of a Quick Change Artist at work:

Have you ever had an experience where everything is going along just fine? You are on top of the world, totally in control. You feel as though you could do anything and then it all changes in a moment.

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Bipolar? Not Me!


It took eight long years of depression to figure out that I had a form of mental illness called Bipolar Disorder. The difference is significant in the treatment and so this was an important step in my progress.

Why did it take so long to figure it out?

Bipolar involves both good moods and bad moods. It affects two poles of the brain, not just one. I have Bipolar 2, which some refer to as 'mild bipolar'.

The only time I went to see my doctor was when I was in the depths of despair, experiencing the low moods of bipolar which was depression.

When I was on top of the world, experiencing the high side of bipolar, hypomania, I was too busy being 'not depressed' to go to the doctor. I assumed those good feelings were normal. I assumed that was how everybody felt who didn't have depression.

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Diagnosis + Discovery = Depression Recovery


'Discovery' can mean different things to different people. Certainly Columbus thought that he 'discovered' America. The truth is, America was already there. The natives probably had a much different point of view. When I found this poster I was surprised at how many other rather critical jokes there are out there of Christopher Columbus!

When you 'discovered' that the symptoms you were experiencing might indicate that you had depression, that was your first step toward recovery. But there are so many more very important steps.

The symptoms of depression could also be associated with other mental disorders such as ADHD, OCD, PTSD, schizophrenia, bipolar disorder, anxiety, personality disorder and more. After all, those conditions would make anyone depressed to a certain extent. If your depressive symptoms were just a side effect of one of these conditions, it would help you to know, wouldn't it?

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Fight Lies with Truth: Let’s be Honest about Depression

Friday Funny

Smart husband! He did not answer that question with the truth. How much honesty do we need when we are struggling with depression?

A lot! We need a lot of truth.


Because the illness itself is built on lies that are based on thoughts and feelings.

They are just thoughts.

They are just feelings.

They are not facts.

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Three Prayers for Depression

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We were talking about positive thinking for the last week. Well I have something even better and way more powerful than that – PRAYER!

I personally believe that God hears prayer and God answers prayer. I believe that prayer is the most powerful thing you can do for yourself or for others. I believe prayer changes things.

What about you? What do you believe?

Without trying to convince you one way or the other, I am just going to share three good prayers with you.

You have probably heard this first one:


Maybe this next one is new for you?


This last one is familiar to most people and it pretty well covers everything. You can't go wrong by praying this every single day!


I'm so glad you dropped by Depression Getaway today! There is hope for depression. Don't give up. I'm praying for you.

Wendy Love


Positive Thinking Pioneers create Depression Getaways


Depression Getaway is designed to encourage and inform. Last time we talked about how positive thinking, although valuable, is on the one hand, not the definitive answer for depression, but on the other hand, shouldn't be tossed out the window as pointless.

I promised to share with you some of the pioneers of 'positive thinking'. Norman Vincent Peale coined this phrase with his best selling book 'The Power of Positive Thinking'. The poster above is one of his memorable sayings. He had a strong faith in God and was one of the first ministers to combine that with popular psychology. He became a dynamic speaker and the author of over 40 books.

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Does Positive Thinking Help Depression?


Positive thinking and Depression, oh that it would work!

But maybe it can?

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